This couple dated for years before uniting themselves in matrimony. While the official union of marriage was not there, the love birds lived in a world of romance. Once they started living under the same roof, however, reality took hold and misunderstandings became frequent. Have you ever heard a story like this?
According to psychologist Lucy Pacheco, this happens in the early years of marriage because extra responsibilities have crept in and a lot of couples cannot handle them.
“People lack practice in the responsibilities of marriage. Many couples are scared by the commitments and end up not realising what causes disagreements,” she explains.
The fact is that in every relationship couples need to adapt to each other and this is not an easy task. As stated by the author of “Better than a new pair of Shoes”, Cristiane Cardoso. “No marriage can work without sacrifice.”
The man and woman who are about to embark on marriage should know that married life means making sacrifices — no longer thinking about “I” and “me” but “we” and “us.” Newlyweds should know the meaning of the word discussion.
The stage of adaptation
Adjustment is essential in the first years of marriage and learning to cope with the responsibilities that accompany it.
“Many couples try to solve their problems by talking about them, but this cannot succeed. Others are determined to fight, to explain and even to separate, but are not willing to sacrifice, leaving aside the pride, “said Ms Cardoso. She maintains that marriage is one of the greatest blessings in the life of a man and a woman, but requires the ability to change.
“Few are willing to pay the price, few truly enjoy this blessing. Most people expect to pay a low price. I’m afraid that they will keep waiting for the rest of their lives. ”