Good marriages go bad for different reasons. And to begin with, it’s important you know that good marriages CAN go bad. If your happily married today, do not assume that things will always be well because you love each other and have always been happy together.
Marriage is like a beautiful garden that needs to be carefully maintained, if it is to stay beautiful. Neglect it even for a week and the weeds will start growing.
Here are few tell tale signs of marriages on the way to divorce:
Disagreements and arguments remain unresolved:
In a marriage we may be one flesh but we still have two different thinking heads. Disagreements are bound to happen; arguments impossible to avoid. However the key is to arrive at a conclusion there and then, and not leave the problems unresolved. When issues linger after an argument or just get temporarily shelved, be sure they will come back later with a vengeance. You can get rid of this problem by setting yourselves one simple rule: By not going to sleep before resolving an issue between you too. This rule will serve you well.
In a marriage we may be one flesh but we still have two different thinking heads. Disagreements are bound to happen; arguments impossible to avoid. However the key is to arrive at a conclusion there and then, and not leave the problems unresolved. When issues linger after an argument or just get temporarily shelved, be sure they will come back later with a vengeance. You can get rid of this problem by setting yourselves one simple rule: By not going to sleep before resolving an issue between you too. This rule will serve you well.
Proud husband, insubmissive wife:
God arranged the partnership of marriage by placing the husband as the head and the wife as his helper. But being the head does not mean the husband is above error. Some husbands confuse being head- one who leads and take care of the body (the wife) with being a dictator. Dictators are invariably proud and unable to admit their own mistakes. On the other hand, an insubmissive wife renders the partnership of marriage void. There can be no leader if no one wants to be led.
God arranged the partnership of marriage by placing the husband as the head and the wife as his helper. But being the head does not mean the husband is above error. Some husbands confuse being head- one who leads and take care of the body (the wife) with being a dictator. Dictators are invariably proud and unable to admit their own mistakes. On the other hand, an insubmissive wife renders the partnership of marriage void. There can be no leader if no one wants to be led.
No longer first in each other’s life:
When you were dating, you couldn’t wake up, work, eat or do anything else without thinking about each other. All your thoughts, plans and actions revolved around the person you loved. After marriage, a few years down the line, you slowly begin to let other things take centre stage- your children, the house, your career, your work and yourself. You stop sacrificing for one another, doing things to please one another, and start thinking more about yourselves. If you tend to continue that way, better start contacting the lawyers.
When you were dating, you couldn’t wake up, work, eat or do anything else without thinking about each other. All your thoughts, plans and actions revolved around the person you loved. After marriage, a few years down the line, you slowly begin to let other things take centre stage- your children, the house, your career, your work and yourself. You stop sacrificing for one another, doing things to please one another, and start thinking more about yourselves. If you tend to continue that way, better start contacting the lawyers.
Marriage is a difficult thing and couples make mistakes. But don’t be a fool to see the mistakes and keep repeating them.