30 May 2017

Godllywood's self-help group learns the secret of self-worth and high self-esteem

The first meeting of Godllywood's self-help group encouraged women to discover their self-worth as another lesson in the programme of equipping women to invest in themselves by identifying areas for personal growth and offering them skills to make changes to transform their lives.

Hosted by Mrs Marcia Pires in Johannesburg, the meeting is live streamed to groups in all South African provinces as well as neighbouring African countries. Godllywood is a group where women learn to help themselves and explore aspects of how to live as women of God. Opening the meeting, Mrs Pires said that Godllywood’s goal was to make 2017 the year of difference in the lives of each person who attends the meetings. 

Mrs Pires said that many women have low self-esteem and see themselves as inadequate. This is often because they compare themselves to others and feel inferior. She said: “Because we have different talents and qualities from a sibling or friend, we may feel we are lacking in certain areas or are not as good as they are. Perhaps our husband is more educated or expresses his thoughts well. These comparisons leave us feeling insecure.”

She continued: “In an attempt to address these complexes, we strive to develop high self-esteem. We might go on a diet to feel more attractive, subject ourselves to skin lightening products to conform with perceived standards of beauty, or study to overcome our limited education. In these areas we may gain confidence and feel self-worth in that aspect of our life, but limited self-esteem does not resolve issues in other areas. An example is a person who is successful professionally, but does not have a voice in her relationship or is in an abusive marriage. At work she is confident, but at home she feels insecure. Low self-esteem destroys your life yet high self-esteem for the wrong reasons doesn’t help much either.”

Society and families enforce accepted norms and standards on us and the pressure to conform and be accepted often result in making decisions which destroy our lives. As an example, if you are expected to be married by a certain age and have a family, you may settle for someone who shows an interest in you, but find yourself being abandoned with a child. You have compromised what you wanted for your life in an attempt to please others, and now find yourself criticised for being irresponsible. If you don’t see your value, you will accept the standards imposed on you by others.

Mrs Pires said: “The reality is that your worth is already within you. What is the secret to looking at yourself and knowing you have value? The solution is to learn to see yourself as God sees you because He sees your soul. When you learn the value of your soul you can break free from society’s values. Your soul does not have race, gender, marital status, education or financial standing. God values your soul. The world does not look at our soul, but at our potential and what we can offer. If we have nothing to offer, we have no value. But know that God has chosen you regardless of your previous choices, your background, appearance, talents, family or anything else. Godllywood women’s standards are different.”

The self-help meeting looked at various Biblical verses which outline how God sees mankind, His greatest creation, confirming that we have been created in His likeness, are precious in His eyes, have been positioned a little lower than the angels, have been crowned with glory and honour, and that creation has been entrusted to our safekeeping.

Mrs Pires said: “Knowing this, we should not focus on our flaws nor underestimate ourselves. God’s standards overpower the standards of the world. Do not exchange God’s glory and honour for the acceptance of the world and a moment of pleasure. Understand the value of your soul and your relationship with God. Do not compromise your values. Respect yourself. Do not risk your dignity.”

Looking at the question of how to change our mindset, Mrs Pires referred the group to Romans 12:2: Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God. She urged women not to accept the standards of the world as their own saying, you do not need to feel insecure or inadequate because you fall short of worldly standards. These decrease in importance when you know the value of your soul. You may lack worldly things, but you are different. You are worthy inside. You are strong, powerful and beautiful and have the assurance that you will spend eternity with God. 

In conclusion, Mrs Pires said: “As Godly women, our lives should reflect the value of our soul and glorify our eternal Father. Seeing our strength, others will be attracted to what we have and our lives will be a referral for our faith. Our example will demonstrate that trying to improve ourselves through temporary pleasures or achievements have no lasting value. With a willingness to change, our lives can be transformed.”

The next meeting will be held on Saturday 22 April 2017. Everyone is welcome.

For further information, please contact the church’s public relations department on 011 224 3400 or pr@uckg.org.za