Addicted and Abusive
Themba's addiction to alcohol, dagga and cigarettes turned him into a monster who physically and emotionally abused his live-in partner.
This was his life for 30 years and he did not believe it was possible for him to change.
"I owned a tuck shop where I also sold dagga and cigarettes. I smoked and drank any time I wanted to because I had free access to these substances. I physically and emotionally abused my live-in partner when I was drunk.
One day, I beat her up so badly that her jaw dislocated. When she went to the doctor, she was advised to press charges against me, but she refused. I continued abusing her even when she was pregnant. As a result, she had four miscarriages in four years," said Themba.
It was after the fourth miscarriage that Themba realised they were not going to have a child because of his abusive behaviour.
"She became pregnant again and she was able to carry the baby to its full term because I had made up my mind not to lay a hand on her. In 2003 she gave birth to a baby boy," said Themba.
While he was still working on building a good relationship with his family, Themba's partner and their three-year-old son were killed in a car accident.
"I was devastated and heartbroken when I accepted an invite to the Universal Church in 2015. I took part in the Chains of Prayer on Fridays and asked God to deliver me from addiction. I was determined to change and it only took me three months to break free from my addiction to alcohol, cigarettes and dagga.
I stopped selling alcohol and dagga because I did not want anything that was going to ruin my relationship with God. I am now selling clothes and I make good profit. I am not only enjoying financial freedom, but I am also free from addictions after 30 years," said Themba.