31 January 2019

Forgiveness, a key to healing

It took Bongiwe three years to face the pain of growing up without her father. Her father passed away when she was seven years old.

"I was 10 years old when I started asking my mother about my father because all my friends had both parents except for me. My mother then told me about the brutal passing of my father after he was shot seven times. That left me saddened and I locked myself in my room and cried every day. I developed anger towards the person who killed him, even though I did not know him. I felt he was the cruellest person who had robbed me of my right to have a father," said Bongiwe.

To vent her anger, Bongiwe bullied other children at school. "I felt better when I saw them crying," said Bongiwe.

In 2004 she started attending services with her sister and that was when she was able to forgive and heal.

"I took part in the chains of prayer on Wednesdays for my spiritual development and inner healing. In the church, I learned the importance of forgiveness. I realised that holding grudges was not good for my spiritual life and I needed to let go of what happened to my father. I sought God's presence and surrendered my life to Him. His presence gave me the comfort I needed and I was able to forgive the man who killed my father. I found peace and stopped bullying other children at school. I now live peacefully with other people," said Bongiwe.